DD is not only vegan, he also eats no oil. I lived many years mostly vegetarian so I understand how it is to go out and read a menu and find nothing on it that works.
I like to think I’m a good cook, at least my family and friends have always said so. Vegan cooking is simple enough but cooking without even olive oil is a new challenge. I’ve been experimenting a bit and have managed a passable chocolate cake that he likes.
When DD and I broke up we were both heavy smokers and he lived off nothing but Burger King. And weighed nearly 250+ pounds. I still smoke some. He’s quit. And is now an incredibly sexy 180. I even had a dream last night about what I want to do with him as soon as I get my divorce finalized.
We’ve both changed a lot in 5 years. I spend hours a day in the garden. He spends endless hours chasing the kids around the play ground.
It isn’t much a stretch to see how basic changes in how we take care of ourselves make a huge difference in how able we are to care about each other. I look back and see us both has having been very self centered and having little self-control, both traits that make for miserable relationships. We were young then. And had a lot going on. He had just come off 6 years active duty which included a long stint in Iraq. I had a young son and was a full time student with two part time jobs. And we had an unplanned baby on the way.
But here we are now. That baby is now 4 year old Little Girl. We both finished college and got “real” jobs. We cleaned up our life styles. And one day I realized my Ex looked a lot better than my husband. In all the ways that really matter. I first noticed this months before I gave up on my marriage but refused to notice I had noticed. It wasn’t until after man-baby moved out and had his biggest melt down psychotic temper fit ever that I truly gave up on making it work and confessed my feelings.
I am happy to have someone who shares my values. Who I can trust completely with my children. I just need some oil-meat-animal product free recipes if anyone has any to share.